15 Love-Life Lessons We Wish They Taught in College

I'd venture a guess that we could have all been saved a ton of love-life grief if we'd just taken a college course on dating. How is it possible that there are classes in everything from sculpting clay to creating the type of algorithms that make Google such a lifesaver, but there isn't a Relationships 101? What could be more of a core class than that? This Ball State University course includes a project where students try to fall in love, so at least that's a step in the right direction. If all schools had to institute some sort of love-life credit, here's what I'd like them to teach.

1. A guy will show you he loves you. If he's serious, you won't have to second-guess his feelings because he'll make them known. He won't just tell you the things you want to hear, because he knows it isn't enough. He'll prove them instead.
1. Don't broadcast your insecurities. Being overly self-deprecating just draws attention to "flaws" a guy probably wouldn't have noticed otherwise. I still remember reading about this in Glamour Jake's book Always Hit on the Wingman. He talked about how a woman fixating on a perceived issue with herself, like thinking she's too fat, can almost convince a guy it's true (even when knows it's not!).
2. Having sex doesn't make you a slut. Getting physical "too early" won't make the right person like you less. It also won't make the wrong guy like you more. As long as you're safe, consensual, and doing it because you truly want to, you're golden.
3. It's scary, but sometimes love isn't enough. Distance and timing are a few annoying culprits that make this one true.
4. A single phase is normal. We pretty much all have them. Even if yours spans years, it doesn't make you a pariah. It can be a time of incredible self-discovery, and no matter how unfathomable it seems, one day you'll look back and wish you had taken full advantage.
5. As is a douchebag one. The guy who strings you along, the one who cares only about his orgasm, and the one who seems to hate the entire world and everything in it will only make you more sure when you find the right one. Plus, they become excellent stories once the sting of actually dating them has worn off.
6. Never desert your friends for a guy. It's not worth it. Not just because you might break up and need your friends but because your friends are people deserving of respect whether you're coupled up or not.
7. Love means being vulnerable. It's terrifying enough that it can send some people into a commitment-phobic spiral, but you have to open up to truly fall in love. And if you find you really can't do it, therapy is a wonderful option that doesn't say a single bad thing about you.
8. Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship. Loneliness sucks, but it's not on the same level as being with someone who's horrible for you.
9. Get some hobbies. When you're single, they'll keep you busy and open you up to meeting new people. When you're not, they make sure your partner doesn't become your whole life. It's an easy way to keep your relationship from stagnating.
10. Don't look at every guy like a potential boyfriend. I swear, they can sense it.
11. Love shouldn't hurt. Sure, sometimes you'll have fights. Breakups will make you feel like you're on the brink of insanity. That's par for the course when it comes to love. But it shouldn't hurt in an abusive way, no matter what.
12. It's OK if you have to work for an orgasm. Unfortunately, life isn't a romantic comedy that is filled with simultaneous multiple orgasms galore. You and your S.O. may have to put some effort into getting you there, which is normal. He should be definitely be as invested in it as you!
13. The guy who's perfect on paper may not be perfect for you. And that's fine! Beating yourself up over a lack of chemistry will just make it harder for you to move on to other possibilities. Sometimes it just isn't there, and it doesn't make you an awful person.
14. You're worth loving. Once you realize this, the most important of love-life lessons, you'll be less likely to settle and more likely to hold out for the relationship you truly want

Resource: glamour.com